Sunday, October 5, 2008


This past year I have learned how important it is to choose your friends wisely. A friend is someone you are there for through thick and thin. A friend is someone you lend a hand to when they are in need or just time to sit and listen. A friend is someone you pour love into and share life together. A friend is someone you pray for.

I found myself is a situation this summer, that was beyond my control. I had a series of health problems and found myself quite alone struggling to make it through each day. The very people that I considered my closest friends, loved and poured into the most were no where to be found even tough they were aware of the situation. A meal, a phone call, a flower from their garden or a simple email would have meant the world to me. Yes, I was hurt by this. But I also learned from this pain.

If you find yourself in a one sided friendship, that is not a true friendship. If the only time you hear from them is when they need something or someone that is not a true friendship.
If they are always to busy with their own life but expect you to make time for them, that is not a true friendship.

There is an “It’s all about Me” attitude in the world today that is very unhealthy! We can not expect our children to not act this way when as adults we are demonstrating this behavior to them.

So think about the people who have been there for you over and over again, pick up the phone and let them know how much you appreciate them! Reach out from your daily routine of rushing around and take 5 minutes the care about someone you consider a friend. Don’t climb up the ladder of success without realizing there was someone who cared enough about you to help you get there. Don’t be a “taker” without willing to be a giver.

It’s not all about you!

Friends are precious, but a true friend is priceless!

Material things can't make the soul whole.
Only the love, trust, and loyalty of friends
can do that!


The Muse said...

How poignantly, your blog of today has been written, dear Lynnn...
Your words touch upon the deepest part of our hearts. That inner sanctum of friendship and faith.
Yes, I do so agree...we must NURTURE the gift...SHARE in the joy, LIFT UP one another in good times and bad...BE THERE if not in physical presence in spirit...And never ever forget that our hearts are vessels which can hold an untold amount of love, one for another. To not do so, would be to cheating ourselves of a most precious gift, the gift of spiritual friendship.

Nice Post!!!

raquel roysdon said...

I agree nice post. I feel about you as a precious gem in my life. I thank you for that. Blessings.

White Iris Designs said...

I totally agree, Lynn..there are people who are in & out of our lives all the time, that we often refer to as "friends" I think we sometimes use this more as a label than a statement of true fact...or a term of endearment.
A true friend is one given to us from is a destiny of sorts..... a precious gift & should be treated as such.... Nurtured, Shared, Protected & and we must always be grateful, to God, for the Gift!
He placed that friend in our life for specific reasons, it is up to us to cultivate the relationship & follow the path he laid out for us.
Lovely post, Lynn

lisa said...

Wow, you explained how I feel to the tee. I have a few friendships that I feel are one sided friendships and I feel as though it's unfair. I always manage to call to see how they're doing and they don't or take a very long time to return my call. I have no idea why this is happening but I don't let it ruin my life.

If you don't mind, I want to talk about friendship and will link your blog as inspiration.

Chic Gal said...

Friendships can be complicated sometimes and often misunderstood. I believe that is friend is a person who reaches out when you need a hand, makes you laugh when you're down, and though absent at always present. A friend is someone you can call and it's as if time has stood still. You are a dear friend Miss Lynn and I'm so glad that you came into my life. You, Pansy, Raquel, Tammy...all people very close to my heart.